How to succeed in speeddating

21 Aug

Knowing that others make conclusive judgments about you using such superficial appraisals makes it difficult to sell your hidden attributes.In these types of pressure cooker situations, follow these five tips to make a winning first impression: Vicky Oliver is a NYC-based career adviser and image consultant and author of numerous career books, including the bestsellers 301 Smart Answers to Tough Interview Questions (Sourcebooks, 2005), 301 Smart Answers to Tough Business Etiquette Questions (Skyhorse Publishing, 2010), Bad Bosses, Crazy Coworkers & Other Office…As long as you are yourself and not pretending to be someone you are not, with a little humor, a dose of sensitivity and a lot of confidence you’ll definitely go places. It sometimes takes a while to get back into the dating swing of things.If you don’t try you will never succeed Tip#10 Be Attentive and maintain eye contact with the person in front of you. The moment your eyes start wandering shows that you are not interested or bored with the conversation.

And you, the interviewee, are the hopeful table-hopper trying to make a winning first impression. Over the years, I’ve found many excuses why it’s not happening. “”First, let’s take care of my excuses: the women you get to talk with, at the speed dating, are not exactly Angelina Jolie either, and they also have their own favourite excuses, why it’s not working for them. That’s why I have condensed my success into the 10 Secrets of Successful Speed Dating, below. Dress appropriately, smart, casual, CLEAN, trying to impress, but something you are comfortable with.One of the biggest challenges is entering the room - the first impression - and it is massively important. OK, there is an imaginary string coming out the top of your head. You will feel your rib cage rising, stomach coming in, and spine straightening. Congratulations, you just grew 1-2 inches, and, look more commanding!Many pre-judgements and decisions are already made in that moment. Don’t puff out your chest, or push your shoulders back to much - if it feels really uncomfortable, it probably looks that way too. Here’s the difficult part (for us men), keep breathing, ready - and add a smile. there may be a feeling of happiness and lightness when you do this.Check out the first three secrets, to stop you getting eliminated in the first few moments. This is as much about the posture as it is about the state of mind. This is about looking more relaxed in a room full of nervous, anxious singles. The thing I love about breathing and smiling, apart from relaxing me, is that it is infectious - yes, your potential date can feel it too.