Biblical advice for dating

10 Sep

, what does a healthy, biblical dating or courting relationship look like in practice? One group generally supports the method of "dating" and attempts to instruct readers to date in a "Christian" way.

The attempt to answer that question has brought about a literary flood over the last several years, with different works bearing different levels of usefulness. The other group rejects the current dating method altogether as biblically flawed.

The man should show leadership and willingness to bear the risk of rejection by defining the nature and the pace of the relationship.

He should do this before spending significant time alone with her in order to avoid hurting or confusing her.

To the extent that the Bible addresses premarital relationships at all, it uses the language of men marrying and women being given in marriage (see Matthew ; Luke -35).

The man should take care not to treat any woman like his wife who is not his wife.

Of course he must get to know his courting partner well enough to make a decision on marriage.

But if one or both of you do not like how it is going, go ahead and break up even if it means going through something like an emotional and probably physical divorce.

Such is the process of finding "the one," and this can happen with several different people before one finally marries.