1000 best dating secret

29 Jan

He dates men and women, both transgender and cisgender (a term for people who aren't trans).

After La Mon transitioned from female to male, he didn’t change his gender to “male” on his OKCupid profile; instead, he started a second profile where he identified as “male.” He kept the female profile active because he thinks that some women who typically date other women might also be interested in dating transgender men.

Colleen, who asked that we not use her real name, is a 30-year-old transgender woman who has been dating online since she was a teenager.

She's in a monogamous relationship now, but before she fell in love she had an OKCupid profile that identified her as a straight woman.

While he has dated some people through the site—it’s where he met the woman he’s seeing—he is frustrated with the limited ways transgender people are able to identify on the site, “because you don’t fit into these little boxes, or the people you’re interested in don’t fit in neat little boxes.” La Mon wasn't alone in his discontent.

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He thinks people will figure it out anyway when they meet him.

Soon after Colleen made a profile on OKCupid she agreed to a date—just to test out the site.

She and the guy hadn't had much communication, and she assumed he was mostly interested in hooking up. ” This doesn't happen often, Colleen said, but when it does she tries to play it cool.

In 2013, an online petition asking OKCupid to accommodate trans and genderqueer people received more than 1,000 signatures.

Ryley Pogensky, the genderqueer person who created the petition, said that when he asked OKCupid about adding more gender identity options, a representative told him it would be difficult to change the site because it was built “in a pretty binary way.” La Mon has noticed that his male and female OKCupid profiles get different matches.